One thing modern culture seems to have abandoned in its busy lifestyle is touch. Children in pre-industrial cultures are held almost constantly on the mother’s body until they are six months old. For 100,000 years this is how human beings were raised. Modern mothers and fathers are encouraged to not physically bond with their children. This causes a deep wound. You can satisfy your lack of human contact through exchanging holdings, men with men, women with women. A ten to fifteen minute holding once a week for three months removes a crusty old scar and builds a foundation for the healthy adult.
The holder sits on a mattress or padded carpet, braces her back against a wall, and wraps the other woman in her arms so she can feel her heart beating. Notice that the woman being held is completely allowing herself to be held. She is not holding the holder. Notice how the holder is not holding her own clasped hands. Instead she is holding the other woman with both hands fully open. This makes for better contact.
Notice in the pictures below how the woman being held has her forehead tucked up into the other woman’s neck. There is skin contact. The two of them have their eyes closed. There is no talking, patting, stroking or rocking. The one woman is simply letting herself be held, and the other woman is simply holding her. While holding, it can make it more comfortable if you brace your elbow on your knee as this woman is doing.